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Expert? Not.


I guess it has been a long time since I wrote in this blog. I guess it is because I don't find myself an expert in this arena. I never set out to be an expert, but reading my posts, I found that I was giving more advice than observation. Love is not something you can be an expert in, but some are better than others. I also find that I have more loving intentions sometimes than loving practice.

Practical Love is about the every day practice of love. We are only taught by example how to love. I find the words of experts, the bible and other sources to be confusing at times. I think we can ponder the words and what they mean for so long that we can make them mean whatever we want. "Turn the other cheek..." Matthew 5:39, for example, is not the advice that I necessarily want to give my 13 year old when dealing with bullies in middle school.

Learning and teaching Love is a challenge. Practicing Love every day is like a battle of wills within yourself. How do we stand up for ourselves and turn the other cheek? How do I teach my girls to be strong and still make loving choices?

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