True Love Resides Within

True Love gets a lot of fanfare on tv and movies. This notion that there is this ONE person out in a world of 7 billion people that is right for you, is such a romantic ideal. But for someone like myself who occasionally plays the Power Ball, with romantic ideas about becoming rich, I have come to realize the absurdity of the odds. If there is only one person for you then it is actually very tragic. I think it could also be very magical, if you are lucky like I am to have come together, against all odds, with the most beautiful, talented compliment to myself-my wife, Cory. We have been together for about 25 years now. Crazy. Wonderful.

But as I watch my Mom who, after the death of my Dad, was able to fall in love again, I know that true Love is not about that ONE person. It is, however, about one person. That person is you. True Love resides within. Love must be cultivated. You water it. Feed it. Nurture it within yourself so that you can let it expand outside of yourself. That Love becomes a beacon. When someone else whose beacon vibrates at your frequency comes close enough, you become attracted. Attraction turns to Love over time.

So how do you find true Love? You don't. You practice true Love. You love yourself first. You have to start with the ones closest to you. Love is something you feel more than something you do. Going shopping and buying yourself something nice, is not an act of Love in itself. You have a thought of Love; you feel Love; and then you act on it. Thought, feeling, action.

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Dual nature

It occurred to me today that I have to start this practicing love if I am going to get any better at it. So I set about to only think good thoughts about people today. It was apparently too lofty a goal for me today. Whatever you practice, you do. I don't know why we continue to practice hate, anger, sadness, frustration, jealousy, etc. It comes out. We seem to gravitate to it. Someone says, "Did you hear what she said?" and we perk up and hope it's juicy. "She is such a horrible person!" we may continue. We love this for some reason. Maybe it's because of the same genes that make us laugh every time someone falls down. Anyway, whatever the reason, it is something to fight against. But I don't want to say fight against, because that too has a negative connotation. It is something to supplant. You see we have two natures, human and spirit. I don't care what religion you practice or don't. You have to feel this spirit within you or recogniz...

In the beginning

Everything I needed to know about love, I learned in kindergarten. Well I hope not. But at least in kindergarten they teach about how to play nice with the other kids. And in kindergarten, they make you practice it everyday. Even at home, you were never forced to be nice everyday. Being nice goes against our selfish nature. When you are a kid, the world revolves around you. I'm hungry. I'm tired. I'm cold. It's not fair. But, before kindergarten, when you were first born, the world has to revolve around you. You can do nothing for yourself. Feeding, cleaning and swaddling comes from your parents. You learn quickly how to get everything you need. Those who provide for you, love you. Your love for your parents comes out of getting what you need from them. Your selfishness combine naturally with their unselfish actions toward you.

GIVE PERMISSION

"PEOPLE REALLY PISS ME OFF!" Have you ever said/thought that? Some days it seems like the world is against us. But the truth of the matter is, the people in the world are not thinking about you much at all. That !@#$%^&*ing person that cut you off on freeway was just doing what they needed to do for themselves. The perception that the person was trying to maliciously scoot in front of you to cause you to slam on your brakes and threaten your life is no more true than the opposite of that. That is right. Both the worst truth and the best truth exist at the same time. Let me explain.Your experience of the truth happens entirely in your brain. You write a play, cast the characters, give them rich histories and endow them with emotions...in your mind. This happens with everything. Since you don't have all the facts, you fill in facts based on your experience, your instincts, your emotions. This is creative energy. Have you ever seen the test that looks like this: Aro...

Practical Love

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