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In the beginning

Everything I needed to know about love, I learned in kindergarten. Well I hope not. But at least in kindergarten they teach about how to play nice with the other kids. And in kindergarten, they make you practice it everyday. Even at home, you were never forced to be nice everyday. Being nice goes against our selfish nature. When you are a kid, the world revolves around you. I'm hungry. I'm tired. I'm cold. It's not fair.

But, before kindergarten, when you were first born, the world has to revolve around you. You can do nothing for yourself. Feeding, cleaning and swaddling comes from your parents. You learn quickly how to get everything you need. Those who provide for you, love you. Your love for your parents comes out of getting what you need from them. Your selfishness combine naturally with their unselfish actions toward you.


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